The Importance of Embracing Change
As the last of the autumn leaves fall and I find myself very much in a place of transition personally, it feels so aligned to talk about change and, importantly, how to embrace it. It’s not always easy to do – believe me, I know that – but learning the techniques to do so can truly free you and massively expand your experience of life.
‘…a change comes down to the F word’
The difficulty that arises with embracing – or even just accepting – a change comes down to the F word. Fear. So many of us want to know what lies ahead, want to be able to have a view of our full life blueprint, and we find it difficult, if not impossible, to take those first steps without seeing the bigger picture. So we remain stuck in a place that feels comfortable and safe. But actually, that’s not true comfort or safety at all; that spot that we find ourselves in is fear. This fear encourages us to overanalyse, plan meticulously (read as ‘procrastinate’) and have everything in place before we make a single step. But when is everything ever in place? So the result is no action at all.
This same fear is why so many of us choose to visit psychics too. Now, don’t get me wrong, I love a psychic as much as the next person and there’s definitely an excitement in peeping at what’s potentially ahead but it’s exactly that; a potential scenario based on our current vibrations and frequencies. And if we rely too heavily on those sneaky peeks into the future, it can become almost voyeuristic and actually prevent us from moving forward because we believe that those future experiences are set in stone, no matter what we do when, in actual fact, we still have to take action to achieve that future if it’s what we truly want. Or the opposite can happen; we get a glimpse into our future and it brings so much overwhelm that we bury our heads in the sand and take no action at all, or our inner saboteur tries to ‘protect’ us and we subconsciously hinder any chances to move forward.
Fear and stagnation really hit us hardest when change is inevitably thrust upon us at some point or another, and something beyond our control occurs. It puts us in a position of huge resistance, knocks us out of alignment and stops us being inflow.
‘You don’t have to see the full staircase to take the first step…’
So, how do we embrace change rather than fear it? It’s all about trust and acceptance. I know this is easier said than done but trusting in something bigger and beyond yourself – call it faith, God, the Universe, Mother Earth, whatever resonates with you – really is the first and most important step to take. Trust that there is the most perfect, beautiful and balanced ecosystem in place that creates and provides more accurately and consistently than anything we could ever imagine. Have you heard the saying, “You don’t have to see the full staircase to take the first step”? It couldn’t be truer – and trusting that the staircase will begin to unfold and reveal itself in the most perfect formation with every step you take is key to moving forward.
‘…see that nothing is personal…’
Acceptance goes hand in hand with trust. Taking ourselves out of a situation and trying to look at things objectively – without judgement or emotion – allows us to see that nothing is personal, nothing is even positive or negative; it simply is. This may sound a lot like explanations you may have heard for surrendering. However, there can be negative connotations associated with surrender; it’s almost as if you’re giving up on something or not fighting hard enough for what you want. This is not the case at all; when we come to a state of acceptance, we can let go and take away any attachment to an outcome – and that’s when the Universe (or any other term that resonates with you) can really get to work and deliver. It’s not about detachment but, rather, non-attachment.
‘…everything happens exactly as it should.’
It takes a long time to unlearn what we’ve been taught; to overwrite our belief systems and attempts at ‘protecting’ ourselves from change. Your attitude towards change is unlikely to transform overnight – but understand that nothing happens by chance, nobody can control everything in life, and there is no force more powerful and capable than that perfect ecosystem which is in place right now as I write these very words, and it is ensuring that everything happens exactly as it should. All it asks of you is trust and acceptance.